On the recommendation of a friend I recently started watching the women of Wisteria Lane. That’s right, those Desperate Housewives. I love them! I love them not only for their crazy antics and endless mysteries but, most of all, for their unwavering friendship.
Every woman should have a group of friends like the ladies on Wisteria Lane. They are the best kind of friends. The kind that embrace each other’s differences, pick each other up through life’s struggles and endure through the most difficult times.
So why is this kind of friendship so hard to find? I think it is fear. Fear that our friends will know too much. Fear that our friends will see us at our worst. Fear that our skeletons will step out of the closet. Fear that they will judge us when we are at our worst. Fear that we will be judged for working or not working outside of the home, parenting choices or those other daily life choices. The truth is they will judge. It is human to judge. But if they are true friends, the kind that stand the test of time, they will show you grace, help pick you up and always stand by your side. They will appreciate the kind of mom you are and celebrate your small triumphs. They will accept you for who you are: the good, the bad and the ugly! They will learn that differences should be celebrated and those differences can be learning experiences not only for you but for your children. Every mom I know has a special gift, one that is different than mine, which my children can see and learn from.
This year has been a particularly difficult for me. Not anything earth shattering, but more difficult than previous years. My son went away to college, our beloved dog of fourteen years passed away, I have been faced with a few medical issues that I wasn’t expecting (which forced me to think about my age) and brace yourself… my son got his first serious girlfriend. I’m just kidding about the last one… kind of…
The great thing about this year is I learned so much about friendship and how grateful I am to have my friends. I also learned that I am blessed with amazing friends. The kind that embrace each others differences, pick each other up through life’s struggles and endure through the most difficult times.
There were some that couldn’t hang. To them I don’t say “goodbye”, I say “see you around”. My years have taught me that not all friendships develop and progress the same. Some never reach sisterhood and that’s okay. For the ones that do, I will be forever grateful!
Thank you to the sisters that have seen me through this crazy year. You have helped me to grow and I hope I have done the same for you. I am grateful for the strength and gifts you offer to me and my family. I am grateful for your friendship.