I don’t know about you but sometimes the tiny humans at my house get the best of me with poor attitude. Actually my not so tiny human can still throw a little ‘tude my way too. Some days I can handle it and some days I want to hide under the covers and eat all of the candy in the house.
I have read several books on this subject and have found that there are great ideas in many of them. Below are few of my favorites.
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I have decided to compile a list of tips that help me tame the tides and keep me from losing my cool.
1. One of the best things I have found is giving me a timeout. It helps me keep from losing it and take a moment to regroup. This is much more effective than giving my children timeout. My daughter doesn’t seem to care if she is put in timeout but doesn’t like me to have one at all.
2. Sorting beads is another tool that we having been using for a while now. This allows both parents and kids to have some time to cool down.
3. Writing is a great way to put them in check if you have an older child. It is also great for building writing skills. My college aged son is an incredible writer and we attribute it to his writing punishments. Ha-ha!
4. Being consistent has also been very important for us. If we stay on top of things and consistently follow through we get a much better response during trying moments. Follow through has been very important for our family when dealing with attitude. We only threaten with consequences that we are prepared to follow through on. Empty threats lead to sassier moments in my experience.
5. We also reward positive behavior. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. I have found that words are a powerful reward. “I love the way you stay still while you were at_____.” “It makes my heart smile when I see what a kind person you are.” “You made me feel proud when you____.” This could even be turned into a nightly routine. Each family member can reflect on a positive moment from the day. It’s amazing what little actions like these can do for kids’ behavior and emotional well-being.
6. Remember their age. This one is so important for me. For my daughter this is especially true. She is tall for her age and often speaks like an adult. It’s important for me to keep perspective and remember she is still little. Watching her play helps me with this.
7. Giving simple choices has been so crucial for our family. It helps kids to feel as though they have some control in their own lives. We do this with clothing, lunch, activities and so on. This is also a great way to teach them decision making skills.
8. Discuss feelings! I think this one is so important. All emotions are important and valid. Learning when and how to use them is equally important. Modeling this is a great way to start. There are also several great children’s books to help give them a clear picture.
9. Assign daily responsibilities. This helps kids to have a sense of responsibility and stay focused. It helps build routine which is so important for little ones.